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Leaning on each other during grief is not the ideal way to get close to someone, but boy howdy, it works. Pete and Jan followed us to Greensboro — and found a house less than a mile from ours.

We’re not the odd couple, exactly, but definitely odd as a couple. He’s fit, rides a motorcycle and can fix or build anything. I worried it would make for a tricky in-law situation, but it turned out having them close by was as much of a boon for me as it was for Nina.

As I watch the tosses back and forth, something hits me: Pete’s mortality.

Like with all the dying — both our wives in such a short span — I’d forgotten that one day that’s the path he’ll take, too.

Later, when I shoo the boys toward bed at the beach house, Pete is already starting to clean up after dinner.

This routine was always quintessentially marital for me. How to write a condolence note, and my sister’s apartment makeover.

I, on the other hand, prepared lengthy, detailed remarks and wound up speaking extemporaneously for more than an hour.

Still, Pete and I share the obvious: almost two decades spent negotiating life with two fiercely loving women, the two of them so close they spoke daily on the phone even on days when they knew they’d see one another; and of course our common shipwreck of loss. But I also forget milk, butter, lunches, books, board games, cards, markers and paper. And my crowning achievement pays dividends: a game of Nerf catch!

Here, her husband John Duberstein describes the unexpected way he found comfort right after her death…

The title “father-in-law” can evoke Ben Stiller-style awkwardness.

When Nina died, I joined a terrific online support group, but it’s for young widows — my peers are 90% female. So what do you do when your whole family dynamic is built around widowers?

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