White men dating black men
One was a guy who was interested in talking to me, and the other was acting as his wingman.The wingman walked up to me as his friend stood beside him and screamed over the music, “You’re perfect!
He kept touching my hair without my consent, was legitimately disappointed that I could not twerk, and called me “sassy” whenever I voiced an opinion that was different from his.
Unfortunately, that wasn’t the first or last awkward date I’ve had with a white man.
(One can probably say the same thing about gay black men who date white men.) You’re rarely the first, and you probably won’t be the last. He said it probably has to do with the male emphasis on the physical.
Men are driven primarily by physical attraction when choosing a partner, while with women, other factors can play just as vital a role.
That might be why women are less likely than men to stick to a physical “type.” What my friend said made a lot of sense, but even if I was inclined to concur, I knew that it didn’t make women any more likely to be “color blind” than men.
(“Color blind,” by the way, is a pretty meaningless mental trait that actually applies to no-one.)I knew the woman I was talking to probably never would have been having this conversation with a white person.
She was a chatty and congenial Aussie, with a distinctive no-bullshit edge. And a number of biracial celebrities — including Alicia Keys, Drake, Halle Berry, and Wentworth Miller — were born to white mothers and black fathers.
Most importantly on a Friday night, she was a straight woman in gay bar who wasn’t playing the I’m-such-a-fabulous-fag-hag card while taking up way more space than necessary. I have a theory about white women and black men, and it goes a little something like this.
Uninitiated straight white women who have yet to “go black” are probably just as curious as some of the gay white men who have pursued me.Tags: Adult Dating, affair dating, sex dating