Dating first base second third base
For me it’s a crucial part of third base that sometimes covers the ‘needs’ of fourth.
For a long time I didn’t really let lovers touch my belly or my limbs.
I didn’t include those parts in my sexual landscape because I wasn’t confident in them. It’s been through lovers moving slowly that I’ve learned that basically all of me feels amazing, and my erogenous zones are…unexpected.
English: 1st - Getting off 2nd - Touching and handjob/fingering 3rd - Oral 4th - Sex American: 1st - Getting off 2nd - Touching 3rd - Fingering, handjobs and oral (basically everything up to sex) 4th - Sex The American one just shoves everything into third base and there is clearly a lot of difference there.
When someone says 'third base' it could be anything so the first is much better in my opinion.
Second base is about slowing down and feeling the texture of your lover, where they are soft or hard, where they need touch, gathering them up in your arms, noticing what thrills them.
And then, as your systems light up, speeding up together.
Others placed it as a part of the spoils of second or third base heading toward fourth.
For some, fingering or hand jobs are the peak of the sexual experience.
It’s also a great place to figure out the unique pace and connection between you and this lover. Can they hear your needs without getting defensive? If you aren’t comfortable communicating your needs here, you might want to slow down before going further. Pull his hips to you and find the softest parts of him. From grabbing your lover’s hair tight with the promise of future topping, to stroking your lover’s jaw, tracing your fingers up their back, all the way down to a foot rub, this is your time to get to know the erotic landscape of your lover.
Setting a standard for quality of touch actually sets a standard for all contact between you, but it can be really hard to talk about. This can be healing for those of us who move through life with a practice of compartmentalization—living a life in parts: parts you can touch, parts to ignore.
My version is a bit slower for people who have never been in a relationship before, but I've had many boyfriends (and girlfriends) and this is what works best for me.Tags: Adult Dating, affair dating, sex dating